What’s Your Story?
Your story matters in spite of your imperfections. In spite of what the voice in your head may whisper … your words, the narrative that is your life, the highs and lows, all of it matters. In today’s coaching session, we’re going to talk about how to own your story in five steps and why that is so very important, no matter who you are or where you are in life.
Mentioned In This Podcast
– Download The “What’s Your Story?” Infographic
– Bangs & A Bun Blog
– Elizabeth Gilbert Podcast – S1E12
– Malala’s Story & Non-Profit
– Blubrry Podcast Hosting
– Shane Koyczan’s Spoken Word Ted Talk
– Free Podcast Worksheet
What’s Your Story? – Own Your Voice In (5) Steps (Summary Notes)
A husband and wife, along with their teenaged daughter, sat near me at a Starbucks. Some polite conversation. Minimal eye contact. Polite smiles followed by silence. awkwardness. Then all three disappear into their cell phones.
A few moments pass. The teen pops her head up. Searching. Hoping. But no one notices. So like her parents, she disappears from life … she disappears from living a life worth recording … into a glowing screen where no magic will ever be found.
Own your voice to get focused on the things that matter most.
A man new to 12 step, wore business casual to each meeting. Why? Because, you know, he was successful and it was important that everyone know that. Sure, he got why he was there, but still. He wasn’t like “them”. Not really. Thankfully, all that changed.
Own your voice to get ok with the person in the mirror.
Malala, 12 years old at the time, started a blog with the BBC to speak out about the Taliban’s efforts to deny her right to get an education, simply because she was a girl. Three years later, at the age of 15, the Taliban boarded her school bus and tried to silence her voice forever.
Own your voice to make a difference in this life.
Tell Your Story Because Your Story Matters
Your story matters … in spite of your imperfections, in spite of what the voice in your head may whisper. Your words, the narrative that is your life, the highs and lows, all of all of it matter.
Think about that moment when you meet someone new. It’s the, “What’s your story” moment. Who are you, in a nutshell? It’s like the speed dating version of connecting with someone.
Do you own your voice during such moments?
On the far left, we have the perfectly sculpted mask. On the far right, we have uncontrolled, endless disclosure. What you’re looking for is healthy middle ground that affirms and empowers you and your life. Free of shame. Full of “hell yeah”! And here is why that is so important:
The degree to which your true self is merely surviving, is the degree to which your true self is not thriving. Meaning, the only way to thrive is to own your voice.
The POWER of your message gets silenced if you don’t learn how to calmly and confidently walk with your story. Owning your story is owning your message to the world.
Keeping it real is what keeps it vibrant and alive, which is messy and imperfect, and that is kind of the point. Owning your voice allows you to accepts your imperfections, as well as the imperfections of others.
How To Own Your Story In (5) Steps
How to own your story in five steps. And grab the infographic in these show notes, it will help.
Document the little things that define your story. Where were you born? Brothers and/or sisters? College? Own your voice by clarifying the little things.
Document the big events that have shaped your life and worldview. This one can be game changer. What key events deeply shaped your life? How so? Own your voice by owning the big moments that shaped your journey.
Document the choices you’ve made, the good ones, the bad ones, the safe ones -and the impact those choices had in your life. Own your voice by owning your choices.
Document the lessons learned along the way. All the realizations and insights that have influenced your life. The realizations this podcast may be inspiring. Own your voice by clarifying the lessons learned.
Document the end result. Who are you in three to four sentences? As a result of all the things you have documented, you have become whom? Own your voice by owning what it took to get to this point in your life.
But There Is A Price To Pay
You’ll have to stay focused and grounded. Own your voice by getting anchoring in the truth.
You’ll have to tell a story, not just the facts. Why? Because facts inspire no one, to include yourself. Own your voice by crafting a story worth telling.
You’ll have to face some voids in your life. We all have them. Own your voice is also owning the things that are missing, broken, human.
Here’s Your Homework
Download the infographic attached to these show notes.
The jump over to my free (18) minute master class and do that brief workshop.
Own your story. Truly own your story. All of it. All of you.
“Owning our stories … the only options are owning them, or orphaning them” Brene Brown